Who Pays For A Wedding These Days?

Who pays for a wedding these days.

Oct 22, 2017

If you are a couple planning on marrying or are parents of a son or daughter who is getting married you may be wondering, who pays for the wedding, if so keep reading this article.

Traditional wedding etiquette states that the bride’s parents would be responsible to cover all or a major part of the expenses with the groom’s parents and bridal party attendants also contributing in a minor way.

Traditional Wedding Etiquette For Who Paid For What

Brides parents payed for:

  • Accommodation for out of town bridesmaids

  • All floral arrangements for the ceremony, reception, bridesmaids and flower girl’s bouquets, corsages for special helpers

  • Bride and or her family pay for the groom’s ring

  • Bride’s dress, veil and accessories

  • Bride’s hair and makeup

  • Brides family hosts the first engagement party if there is more than one

  • Ceremony rental fees and music

  • Gifts for bride’s attendants

  • Pays for all the reception including catering and decorations

  • Wedding announcements, wedding invitations and wedding programs

  • Wedding cake

  • Wedding favors

  • Wedding photos and video

  • Wedding planner fees – if hiring one

  • Wedding transport for the wedding party to and from the ceremony and reception

Grooms parents payed for:

  • Accommodation for out of town groomsmen

  • Boutonnieres for groom, his father, father of the bride and male attendants

  • Corsages for mothers and grandmothers

  • DJ, band or other musical entertainment for the reception

  • Groom and or his family pay for the bride’s engagement ring and wedding ring

  • Groomsmen gifts

  • Honeymoon

  • Hosts the rehearsal dinner

  • Liquor at the reception

  • Marriage licence

  • Officiants fees and travel expenses

  • The bride’s bouquet

  • Wedding gift for bride

Wedding Attendants:

  • All attendants would pay for their own clothing and accessories

  • Bestman and groomsmen host the bachelor party

  • Maid of honor and bridesmaids host the bridal shower and bachelorette party

This way of paying goes back hundreds of years, where most daughters remained in the care of their wealthy parents until the day they were married. Upon getting married a dowry (usually large sums of money and or land) would be given to the groom’s family for her to be married into the family.

However, today circumstances are different most couples are already financially established, may have already started a family, been living away from home for many years or the parent’s financial situation may be such that they simply can’t afford to pay for some or all the wedding.

So, who pays for a wedding these days?

How to answer this question is to look at your own circumstances and that of your families.

Ideally you both would have already discussed the type of wedding that you both want and roughly estimated how much you will need to pay for it.

And with this figure in mind you may have already decided that the two of you are going to cover the costs of the wedding because you can.

However, if you are looking for help to pay for the wedding, you should each sit down and talk to your respective families to see if they are able to help and they can ask how much they are willing to give.

If you find that for whatever reason neither of you parents are unable to contribute you are going to have to get creative and find other ways to raise the money.

When you have worked out how the wedding will be paid for and how much you have to spend you will need to work on a wedding budget.

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